Finding Balance

Finding balance in motherhood

With everything that’s going on in the world It seemed best to take a slow and gentle approach to the start of 2021.

Here in the UK it’s still going to be a while till we find a new normal and so I decided to take my time and continue the retreat through January.

Working with the seasons like this is a great way to bring more flow into your life. Winter = Retreat time!

One of the biggest lessons I had last year was trying to do too much.
It was my first year being a mum back at work again and running a business as well as trying to keep on top of everything else.
Often I found myself taking on everything which created more tension and frustration within me. Really what I should have been doing is asking for help.

Because that’s the thing right, as mums we find ourselves pulled in so many directions that often it can feel easier to try and do it all ourselves. When really this is a recipe for disaster. We can’t work from a burnt out space. It just won’t work. We need elements of release factored into our time so that we can unwind and re-energise ourselves.

I know for me that because I didn’t factor in these times as much as I should have been doing that I became a ticking time bomb ready to explode. 

Thankfully I have a great partner that more often than not knows me better than I do myself. He regularly called me out and put his foot down that I NEEDED to take some time out.

So this year I have decided to optimise my time, make self care practices my priority and to ask for help when I need it.

Finding balance in Motherhood and the hats we wear takes daily tinkering.
Some days move with ease, some can be a challenge. Children bring an element of chaos to life, especially when they’re little. This means that if we have big goals set for our day and they’re going through something like a growth spurt, an illness or maybe teething can throw a spanner in the works. The amount we could do one day suddenly goes to pot and requires us to drop our expectations, some days that may look like dropping everything so that we can solely focus on our children when they need us.

One thing I have found is that when things just aren’t working and our children are wanting our attention it is best to stop trying to force something that isn’t going to work. If we push we will find ourselves in a space of tension and forcefully trying to do something. When we push we come up against more resistance. When we let go you will probably find that you have a really beautiful experience of focused attention solely on your little one/s. And well, that will do wonders for the both of you.

So what are on my list of priorities when it comes to self care and things that nourish me?

Firstly it’s art. Art brings me into a space of flow and that feeling of flow allows the prefrontal cortex (the part of the brain that rationalising things, making decision processing information) to go dark. This means the mind is then free to act in new ways, reach new conclusions and function beyond the disparaging voice of our inner critic. As a result, the mind adopts a novel, childlike perspective which produces associations and conclusions that are daring, innovative and courageous. Basically it allows your mind to quieten and allow time to slip away and get really present in the moment.

Second is Journaling. Journaling allows me to express the messiness of my monkey mind. I find that my mind is so active that sometimes I need to be able to brain dump it somewhere. This helps me to get it out and let it go. I also use an art journal where I use papers and other bits from around my house to make messy journal spreads which I cover with whatever musings are coming to me at the time. I find it really therapeutic.

Third is Meditation. Meditation is another practice that allows me to step out of my monkey mind and learn to find quiet within. I say practice because it is a daily practice and something that I am forever learning to improve. I do really love the guided meditations that take you on a journey through visualisations. They’re like travelling within my mind!

A few others include having bubble baths, reading and getting out in nature is a big one for me, although I haven’t been getting out as much as I should/would like to be doing.

So yeah, this is my musings on finding balance in motherhood and creating self care practices that nurture me and nourish me as a woman and mother.

I’d love to hear what your making a priority this year?

Big love, 

Jules xo

A permission piece: Owning my Witchywoo

Claim all layers of yourself

Last year I had a couple of really juicy conversations with dear friends of mine and each sparked something in me. One sister I spoke to mentioned her visioning experiences and learnings that she feels are along her lifepath. With another sister  I had expressed a feeling of uncertainty and direction in where I wanted to go with my offerings. I expressed that I find that I’m a dabbler in many things and because of this there seems to be no clear niche. She posed to me a couple of questions.  

Where do all the things I do meet? 


Who do I want to be?

 These are pretty profound questions and moved me into a space of reflection.

My trusty tool to explore these questions was my journal.  I love a blank page in my journal to be able to move through my inner landscape and open up space for the new. 

I found myself going round and around, answering the question of who do I want to be over and over again. It brought me to a place of having some quite profound realisations.  

I realised that there’s a side of myself needs more space to be expressed, to be heard and to be seen.  She’s the part of myself that is philosophical and loved to explore the metaphysical by going beneath the surface to explore the inner workings of herself.  She loves to explore emotions, beliefs, behaviours and her triggers.  She likes breaking them down, getting to the root of them and clearing them so that she can be a more fully expanded version of herself. She strives to bring more magic into her life.  Creating ritual and sacred space to go within. 

This layer of myself is who I call my witchy woo. 

I am giving her space to express and to be seen.

We all need a bit more magic, creativity and healing in our lives and my witchy woo woo is all for that!

Art Journaling process around claiming my Witchywoo @kamala_creations

My witchy woo has taken me on a profound journey over the last 5 years. She followed her curiosity and joined women in circles for deep processes working with the moon and menstrual cycles. She took me on a healing journey through The Spiral and Pelvic Bowl Activations with Deep Inner Knowing & Vela Souls. She even got qualified as a Reiki Master (though she has never really shared this). Over the past five years this journey of expansion and evolution that I have been on thanks to my witchy woo  has allowed me to create a toolkit of wellness and healing practices that nourish me to my core. This tool kit brings me back into alignment and grounds me so that I can fully express myself. Where I can dip into different modalities of emotional clearing, embodiment and shadow work to traverse the mucky stuff that inevitably comes up in life.

The thing is, I often find myself dimming down my interests in metaphysical and spiritual practices even if some are now more common like meditation, yoga and tarot. There has still been a sort of embarrassment of being judged for being a bit wacky. What I have come to see is  that when I dim this down in my posts and blogs that actually I am dimming down a part of my personality. I am dimming down myself,  which is not okay. 

So here I am claiming my witchy woo. She makes me feel unbelievably connected and gives me full permission to listen to my inner guidance system. When I listen to her I have the most fulfilling nourishing experiences that really refuel me. My witchywoo brings me into the most authentic version of myself over and over again and for that I am thankful. Because of my Witchywoo I have the most incredible relationships with people in my life and feel really connected to the fact that I feel I am living my life to its fullest.

So here is your permission piece. If there was one message I would like to get across to you through sharing what I have learned from my witchywoo is don’t play down a part of yourself, OWN IT. It might be one of your strongest and most incredible elements that make up you. 

Here is a couple of journal prompts to get you going:

Is there something that you do that makes you feel so good but you hide it from others?

What is it? How does it make you feel?

Why do you think you may hide it from the others? 

If you were to own that part of yourself with no judgement how would it make you feel?

I’d love to hear your thoughts in the comments below. 

Big love,

Jules xo